As I sit to work on my latest novel, I put the classical station on Pandora. Canon in D starts. It takes me back to my wedding. Like a ton of brides, it was the song to which I walked down the aisle. I still remember that moment. I wasn't nervous and that's pretty substantial since I'm a constant worrier. No, I wasn't shaking, or sweating, or regretting.
I was humming Sir Mix A Lot.
It was the only way I could make it through the walk without crying from happiness. And I'm not a crier, but I was on the fringe of uncontrollable tears. I was about to commit my life to my best friend.
A lot of folks prefer not to marry. I'm not going to argue this point in this blog. If you're interested in statics on the decline of marriage, check out pewsocialtrends.org. I'm also not going to address divorce. I've done that in the past and my heart goes out to those who have experienced that heart ache.
No, this blog post is about why you should get married. Even if you've been married once before and it failed, even if you're living with your mate and things are going well.
You should get married.
Marriage isn't a piece of paper. It isn't a ring or a dress or a fancy party. It's a covenant between you, your spouse and whether you believe it or not, God. It's a commitment that in better or worse, you're going to work until you can't work any longer and then you're going to work more. For each other.
Marriage binds you to another soul in a way that no other form of commitment can. It honors you spouse by telling the entire world "This is the person I love and cherish. This is the person I would lay down my life for. This is the person I respect enough to stand up in front of my family and God and declare my devotion." Those vows you take aren't just words. They're binding promises that for better or worse you'll be there. Your spouse will be there. How could you want anything less?
Yes, marriages fail. But that doesn't mean all marriages will lead to divorce. Your parents may have had a terrible marriage. Or you may not know a single married couple that hasn't had a divorce and you say to yourself, "Marriage doesn't work, so why bother?"
Why not say, "It hasn't worked for them, but I'll be the exception"?